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It Takes a Special Woman to become
a Surrogate Mother
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 | It takes a very special woman to become a surrogate mother. She has to go into this knowing from the beginning that she will give birth to a child and then turn that child over to its parents. You have to have a certain mentality that very few women have. CSP recognizes this and that is why so few of us Special Women are chosen out of the hundreds of applicants.
It takes an even more special woman to be a surrogate for a gay couple, as I was. We know that the desire to be a parent knows no racial, religious or sexual preference. We know that the child (or children, in my case) will have --the same love and care as children born to heterosexual couples. We have a very open mind. We don't judge. We will encounter negativity from others. But we followed our heart and that's all that matters most.
My name is Andrea and I gave birth to twin boys in 2002 for a gay couple in another country. I had read at least 10 profiles for heterosexual couples but none really "Got" to me. When I asked for another batch of profiles to be sent to me, my teenage daughter, Ann suggested it include one from a gay couple. I received 5 and read them all and then handed them to Ann, I had already decided on the gay couple, but I didn't tell her until she read them all. Ann, like me fell in love with Mark and Peter immediately. Thankfully, the feeling was mutual and we went forward. My journey with my "Guys" was incredible. They showered me with love and support all the way from the other side of the world. I would do it for them again if they asked.
I had many reasons as to why I decided on a gay couple. I have a very strong personality and I think a woman and I would have really clashed. I would not have been able to handle someone wishing they could tell me what to eat or how to take care of myself. Since the guys lack the "equipment" to carry a child, they relied on my judgement a lot throughout my uncomplicated pregnancy.
We formed a lifetime bond. My men will come to see us when the boys are old enough to enjoy Disneyland and we will all go together. They call me every few months and send me e-mails and photos when they have time. I let them know about what's going on in our lives. I think of them often and sometimes wish they were closer, because I do miss them, all of them not just the boys.
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