Being a surrogate is something I have always held close to my heart. It is something I have wanted to do for a long time. I just wasn't sure how my husband would feel about it, where to begin, and if the rest of my family would support me and my husband through this journey? I wanted to become a surrogate because I had my own journey to becoming a mother. We ended up doing IVF to conceive our 1st child, then we got a happy surprise when we became pregnant with our 2nd child! Going through all of our own struggles made me realize even more that everyone has their own story of becoming a parent and some are rougher than mine. I wanted to help someone else's dream come true of creating their own families. When I first told my husband about it, he was a little skeptical. He had a lot of the same questions and concerns most people have. “You're going to carry someone else's baby that's not related to you? How are you going to feel giving that child over to the couple? But there are risks with pregnancy! What if we don't like the couple? What if it really isn't a great match? That would make the pregnancy much harder!” I understood where he was coming from, but I explained that I wanted to do it because I believe a family can be formed in any way. I want to help someone with theirs. And yes, I did have some concerns myself, but I knew if I didn't try, I would regret not doing it and he said “ok!”I wasn't sure on how to begin or where to go. A friend of a friend recommended CSP to me so I filled out their application form and got a reply quite quickly. I began working my way through their screening process and sending in all my medical paperwork. They were so great to work with and never minded my many emails with millions of questions! I arranged to go to our first support group meeting with my husband to meet everyone and other surrogates in my area. It was so great to hear about everyone's journey so far and it made both my husband and I feel very confident about the decision we made to go through this journey. After the meeting we were told we were ready to be matched! I think I was most nervous for the match! You don't know who it will be. Will they be fun to chat with? Will we have things in common? Will they like us and our kids, or will we like them? So many questions ran through my head! I was so excited to receive our first profile! I nervously read their letter and couldn't believe the match we received! CSP not only looked at who would be a good fit for me, but they also found intended parents who would be a great fit for my husband and my kids! When we met them for the first time, we all knew right away that we were a good match and we all agreed in that first meeting to move forward right away! We constantly talk with them and are forming a wonderful relationship. My husband has even said that it makes this journey so much more relaxed and enjoyable knowing we are helping an amazing couple!
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