How do we define ourselves? Is it what we do, the mistakes we have made, who we are, or what we have to offer? For me, it is what I can leave behind. I've lost count of the many accolades of praise I have received from others for my selfless giving. Humbling definitely! I find it quite amusing when the looks of awe turn stunned and dumbfounded when they hear that I have been a surrogate three times and given birth to nine babies. My first journey was such an eye-opening experience. I giggled at the questions received from others, but they had no idea that they were questions I was still trying to learn the answer to myself. How can a black girl give birth to a white, blonde-hair, blue-eyed baby in Mississippi of all places? My initial reason for becoming a surrogate was that it seemed like a very cool thing to do. Did I consider the attachment or bond that I might have with the baby or the parents for that matter? How would my four children really respond to me being pregnant and the baby not coming home with us? Would others see this a selfless act of a blessing or a world of technology playing God?
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