There’s something precious about holding a newborn baby in your arms. Their cute button noses, tiny fingers that clasp on to yours, and quivering little lips make babies a miracle. Unfortunately, there are many couples who are denied the joys of parenthood. If you have considered surrogacy but are unsure, consider some of the positive benefits of being a surrogate mother.
How Surrogacy Works
The process of surrogacy allows for a woman to give birth on behalf of a couple. In traditional surrogacy, the mother donates the use of her ovum and carries the baby. In a gestational surrogacy, the mother carries the developing baby that was conceived with someone else’s ovum and sperm cell (in vitro fertilization). This allows the child to share biological genes with both parents. As a surrogate mother, you have the option to choose which method of surrogacy is right for you.
When you choose to become a surrogate mother, it can be an extremely rewarding experience. You are allowing a couple to have the opportunity to become a family. Dealing with infertility can be devastating, and unfortunately, many couples are unable to have children of their own. Same-sex couples will also require help to become parents. This gives you a unique opportunity to help. Many surrogate mothers report feelings of joy during the surrogacy process. When you give of yourself to help others, it can be a very satisfying experience.
You Choose the Parents
As a surrogate mother, you are offered an “open” program which allows you to choose your couple with the assistance of an experienced counselor. It is your choice if you wish to carry a baby for a same-sex or opposite-sex couple. You’ll be able to find out about the couple’s background, their infertility problems (if any), if they have kids, what they do for work, their personalities, etc. You will also be able to meet with the couple prior to deciding if you would like to work with them.
Although it is not required that you stay in touch with the couple after the birth, friendships usually form. Oftentimes, surrogate mothers gain a close emotional bond with the parents, and this relationship continues on after the birth of the baby. Couples often find joy in the pregnancy process itself, and it is encouraged that you keep in touch with them through letters, photos, etc. Regardless if you choose to stay in touch, the parents will be forever grateful for the gift you given them.
Health costs can be expensive. When you choose to be a surrogate mother, you can feel relieved knowing that you will be receiving expert medical care throughout the duration of the pregnancy, at no cost to you. Before becoming pregnant, you will also receive extensive health tests to determine if you are healthy enough for the pregnancy. You won’t have to worry—the best comprehensive medical care is readily available for you to ensure that you have a healthy and happy pregnancy.
Prior Birth Experience
Having prior birth experience is one of the most important requirements to being a surrogate mother. If you have children of your own and if you have a history of uncomplicated pregnancies, surrogacy could be a great option for you. Some women enjoy the unique experience of being pregnant. This could be a rewarding opportunity to experience something wonderful.
During surrogacy you will have a professional counselor assigned to your case. Your counselor will work closely with you before, during, and after your participation in the surrogacy. There are also group meetings available for you as a surrogate mother. It is likely that you will experience all kinds of emotions and feelings during your pregnancy. Having support from others like you and from an experienced counselor will be a great help. You will receive guidance, care, and protection at all times, and your reliable counselor will be available for you and your family 24 hours a day, at no charge to you.
Not only will you experience the joys of helping another couple to become parents, but you will also enjoy financial compensation. The parents you choose to work with will pay you, as the surrogate, for the service of the pregnancy and delivery. Compensation can depend on different factors, but the compensation can be quite rewarding.
If you feel that surrogacy may be a good option for you, don’t wait. Contact the Center for Surrogate Parenting to learn more!