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Overcoming the Heartache of Infertility

The heartache of Infertility


The desire to create a family is woven into the fabric of our DNA. Unfortunately, building a family isn’t always simple. Many couples and individuals struggle with infertility. Whether your fertility challenges are medical or due to another reason, you’re not alone, and there is hope that you can have the family you’ve always wanted. We can help you overcome the heartache of infertility.

Know you’re not alone

One of the most difficult things for people to come to terms with when they learn of their infertility or a partner’s infertility is the feeling that you’re all alone. It’s frustrating to see happy families in every supermarket aisle and every neighboring home. You feel like you’re the only person who has ever had to deal with infertility. Knowing that you’re not alone and can help you cope with the heartache of infertility.

Millions of people in the United State struggle with infertility. While there’s a common misconception that infertility is an older woman’s problem, fertility problems occur in men and women of all ages. Yes, we said men. Approximately 35% of fertility problems in couples are related to males.

Share your feelings

For a lot of people, talking about their innermost desires is an embarrassment—especially if they fear there’s no solution. First, always remember there’s hope. Second, there’s no need to feel embarrassed or shy about your dream of having a family.

Many people feel like they have to put on a brave front, but that only serves to make them feel lonelier. It’s OK to talk about your feelings with trusted friends and family. These heartfelt discussions can help you sort out your feelings and learn to accept your fertility challenges. When all else fails, many experts recommend writing your feelings down in a journal. Once you’ve put words to paper, you may feel more comfortable sharing these thoughts and emotions with trusted friends or family.

Don’t place blame when facing the heartache of infertility

If you’re part of a couple, it’s easy to misplace blame either on yourself or your partner. Though it’s natural to have negative thoughts, remember that infertility can happen to anyone at any time. Placing blame only prolongs the pain and anger in a challenging situation. Instead of placing blame, try to refocus your thoughts on solutions and moving forward.

Consider professional help

Your friends and family may not be capable of providing the support you need. They mean well, but society sometimes fails to understand the heartache of infertility. That can translate into additional isolation and loneliness for a struggling individual or couple. If you find that the shadow of depression hanging around for months on end, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist can help you find the clarity you need to begin to focus on the brighter days ahead.

Get educated

At first, a diagnosis that suggests you’re infertile may seem like a lifetime sentence. However, there are a myriad of options available to create a family. If a doctor told you your problem is medical, learn about your condition and whether it’s treatable. If you’d like to consider other options, like adoption or surrogacy, now is the perfect time to start researching.

You may also find a support group or organization that can assist you. At CSP, for example, we attend and host seminars for  parents so you can speak to someone in person about the surrogacy process. These events are a great way to meet like-minded people who are considering embarking on a similar journey to parenthood. Additionally, please feel free to call us at any time regarding your family-building options.

Finding hope

As the sadness begins to lift, you’ll find that you have options for creating a family. There’s hope. At CSP, we’ve been in the business of creating families for more than 37 years. Every road to parenthood is slightly different, but we’ve walked that road with thousands of intended parents. Whether you’re a gay couple wondering how you’ll become parents, a single person dreaming of a child, or a couple struggling to conceive, CSP will travel the road to parenthood with you. Contact us to learn about moving past the heartache of infertility.