"It's a girl, you're the father and she's keeping the baby.""I found a surrogate online. We had a great experience with our first surrogate but for medical reasons she could not help us again. We decided to do another surrogacy for our second child. Then her attorney called me and said "It's a girl, you're the father and she's keeping the baby."" A statement by Tom Lamitina, a father of two, his son that he and his wife are raising and a daughter that their surrogate mother is raising.Case # 1: The surrogate mother's name is Stephanie Eckerd and she delivered a baby girl in May 2007. Emma Grace was conceived with Stephanie Eckerd's eggs and Tom Lamitina's sperm. This kind of surrogacy is termed Traditional Surrogacy or Artificial Insemination Surrogacy. Florida law gives Eckard the absolute right to change her mind and keep the child for up to 48 hours after the birth. According to the Lamitina's attorney, Eckerd advertised herself as a surrogate mother online and stated she had been a surrogate mother before.Case # 2: Shelly Baker advertised herself online as a two-time prior surrogate mother willing to help another couple. Ms. Baker stated that she wanted to help a Christian couple. Amy Kehoe saw the message and was drawn to the fact that Shelly lived only 2 hours away. They traded email messages and phone calls and met for dinner before agreeing to go forward with the surrogacy.In July 2008, Shelly gave birth to twins and the Intended Parents. Amy and Scott Kehoe took their twins home. A week later all parties returned to court to transfer guardianship to the Kehoes. During the hearing the judge asked several questions including psychiatric history and legal infractions. Amy stated she had a psychotic disorder not otherwise specified. She had been under the care of her doctor for 8 years. She sees her psychiatrist once very three months and takes medication every day. Before her diagnosis, Amy self medicated and it was this self medication that was the reason for charges of cocaine use and driving under the influence. However, Ms. Kehoe's psychiatrist wrote a letter stating she would be a good mother because her disease had been fully controlled for eight years and she currently had no symptoms.Ms. Baker said she was stunned at the disclosures of the mental illness. Ms. Baker said she had no prior knowledge of this condition and it should have been revealed to her from the outset. She became concerned that Ms Kehoe might relapse and be unable to take care of the twins. One month after the birth of the twins, the Kehoes were forced to say goodbye to their babies and witness Ms. Baker drive off with them.Two surrogate mothers, two different kinds of surrogacy, children not being raised in the homes they were intended to be raised in, a media circus, what went wrong?The main thread connecting these two cases is the absence of professionals.
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