A Step-by-Step Guide to Surrogacy for Gay Parents
The decision to have a baby is an important moment for every gay couple to consider and once the choice has been made, it can be hard to know exactly where to begin. What are the legal procedures? How do you find a surrogate? What do you need to know going into it? At The Center for Surrogate Parenting, our goal is to always keep you informed during each stage. Since working with our first gay couple in 1989, we’ve quickly become the expert in surrogacy for gay men and we are proud to continue offering the highest-quality of surrogacy assistance in the nation. The following are important steps for you and your partner to be aware of once you have made the important decision to become parents.
Once a surrogacy center is selected, it’s important to sit down and have detailed consultations with the right experts to discuss legalities, common procedures, and go over anything else that should be expected during the surrogacy process, such as established parental rights and agreement terms. In other words, make sure all the bases are covered before beginning the journey in order to adequately protect you, your partner, and all other parties involved.
Finding the Right Fit
After all procedural provisions have been taken care of, the next step is selecting the parties that will be involved, such as a surrogate, egg donor, and/or sperm donor. There are many available options, including independent donors, you or your partner being a sperm donor, or going through the agency’s resources. There’s no “one size fits all” solution for each situation; different couples have different needs and requirements. That’s why it’s important to work closely with the agency and find the best option available for everyone involved.
Our rigorous screening process ensures only the best surrogacy candidates are available for selection, which will help ease any anxiety you may feel during the decision.
Once all the components have fallen into place and the due date draws closer, it’s important to keep in touch with your emotional state. Encourage positive communication within your relationship to ensure that everyone, including the surrogate, is doing well with the process. While the decision to have a baby is an incredibly joyful one, it can also be overwhelming at times for some couples seeing as it as such a huge, life-changing event. Understand that it’s okay to feel anxious or overwhelmed at times and then do whatever you need to show and receive the right support.
Once your baby is born, the last step is to celebrate and enjoy your amazing new roles as parents!