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Tips for the Intended Parent and Surrogate Relationship

Learn how to have a successful intended parent and surrogate relationship

Learn how to have a successful intended parent and surrogate relationship

If you’re new to surrogacy, you probably have questions about how to navigate the intended parent and surrogate relationship. After all, this relationship is probably unlike any other you’ve experienced in your life. As a surrogate, you’re carrying a baby for someone else, and as an intended parent, you’re trusting another person with your precious child. While this arrangement is new for many people, it can often lead to a beautiful and even lifelong friendship.

The Center for Surrogate Parenting has over 40 years of experience helping surrogates and intended parents have happy and healthy surrogacy relationships. Read on to explore our top four tips that can help encourage a successful surrogacy connection.

Our top four tips for the intended parent and surrogate relationship

At the Center for Surrogate Parenting, we’ve found that the following tips have helped many intended parents and surrogates have a healthy surrogacy relationship.

  • See things from the other person’s perspective. Relinquishing control of their baby’s development to a surrogate can be stressful and emotional for intended parents. At the same time, pregnancy can be trying for surrogates. Keep this in mind when you talk to each other and be compassionate.
  • Develop a communication plan. It’s important that both the surrogate and the intended parents are comfortable with the amount of contact. As a result, we recommend developing a communication plan early on that outlines how often you’ll contact each other and what communication methods you’ll use to do it. However, you’ll also want to be flexible if changes in the pregnancy make it necessary to deviate from the plan.
  • Communicate honestly and openly. If any questions or concerns come up on your surrogacy journey, don’t hesitate to discuss them with your surrogate or intended parents. You can also reach out to our agency if you need help bringing up or navigating a sensitive topic in your intended parent and surrogate relationship.
  • Follow the golden rule. You’ve always heard to treat others how you’d like to be treated, and this is especially true when it comes to surrogacy. Even when you’re feeling stressed, it’s still important to be empathetic and kind. This goes a long way in achieving a healthy surrogacy relationship.

By following these tips, many intended parents and surrogates have not only had a rewarding surrogacy relationship. They’ve also developed a beautiful friendship that lasts a lifetime.

We can help you have a happy and healthy surrogacy relationship

Intended parents and surrogates are in this together, but they can also turn to the Center for Surrogate Parenting for support. Our agency will connect you with a dedicated psychologist to help you every step of the way, from finding a surrogate until after delivery.

To learn more about the intended parent and surrogate relationship, we invite you to contact us. The Center for Surrogate Parenting is here to answer all your questions.